A very bold question that is . Yet , it is the question being posed ,directly or indirectly by thousands of people across countries, to a lot of mothers. A misconception causing/forcing hundreds of women to leave the jobs after having kids !
This post has sprouted from a heated debate about women working after marriage, specifically after having kids. Following are strongly spoken statements , personally heard many of these from friends , relatives , strangers & so called ‘society!’ ! Are these expectations right?
If a woman refuses to give up her job after becoming a mother , she is selfish.
No , she wants to set an example to her child!
If a woman is career oriented , she doesn’t care for the family.
That’s just ridiculous! Ever heard about work-life balance?
If a woman prefers to work and not leave the job after marriage ,she is arrogant.
Yes, Apparently because there is no need for the woman to work ! what?!
If a woman wants to grow in her career and not just be a sit at home mother , she is deemed not to care about the kid . But, if the father works day and night and has no time for the family , he is deemed to be working for the family. why?
Because he is the man of the house. Period.
Motherly love is more crucial to the child than fathers , so the mother should leave the job for the sake of the child while the father supports the family! Mother blaming.
Wrong , check this research article!
Here comes A convo :
Bride seeking family: We want a woman who isn’t career-oriented and would leave the job if necessary!
Me: Is this asked to a guy? No! Why?
BSF: Because , the guy cannot resign .
BSF: Guy has responsibilities, he has to take care of the family!
what do you mean by if necessary?
BSF: Once the kid is born , we want her to leave the job because mother’s love is important !
Me: How about father’s love? Will he leave the job if necessary?!
BSF: That’s why girls shouldn’t study too much!
Me: <It’s useless to talk ! > I have to go.
While there are people supporting working women , many aren’t .
I hope this changes for good, because working women do care for their family and kids just as the working men do .