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You are a girl!


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This title can be interpreted in two ways – positively,  negatively. Sadly the first thing that comes to me is negative.

Yes , this is so often used to insult that this particular sentence is something that no girl wants to hear anymore.

It is so liberally used by everyone – relatives, friends, colleagues , strangers and in some cases sadly parents too. Most saddening part is even girls/women use it without knowing the impact it is generating.

While most of them might not be aware of the impact of it or might not be even aware that it is insulting, it is not something I wish to hear anymore until the image changes.

Let the convos speak for themselves:

(guy/girl)Friend : I know a guy , he cries like a girl every-time he sees sad endings.

Me: Correction , he cries .period. Girls cry , guys cry. In-fact any human with emotions will cry. So he cries .

Friend: Here comes the supporter of the woman  ! Y don’t u take it on a lighter note .

Me: Well , I did for many years . Many do , which is the reason for the existence of this usage.

 

Colleague : Stop gossiping like a girl man !

Me: ahm , excuse me? (I ain’t gonna tolerate this every-time) . That’s very offensive I must say. I hope at-least educated people understand this.

 

Class mate: Y do u want to work when u can get married and chill? I have to work because I’m a guy

Girl: Because , I did not get bonus marks for being a girl in exams. I studied just as hard as u . I have to work because I’m a girl .

 

A stranger in bus: I see that you are travelling alone , where is ur husband?

Me: I am unmarried , I’m still studying.

Stranger: Haw! Girls shouldn’t study so much ! Just do some degree and get married , he will support u. Shop all day and enjoy.

Me: Looks like u r stuck in ancient times. Thank you for ur advice. But , please dont stop ur girl from studying if she wants to.

 

The most common one – your favorite color must be pink because you are a girl!

me: I have no favorite color. Yes , I don’t . I like each color on different things.

http://www.bbc.com/future/story/20141117-the-pink-vs-blue-gender-myth

While many support girls studying now, small things like -stop acting like a girl , don’t cry like a girl , don’t be a girl , don’t gossip like a girl , don’t run like a girl etc etc – hurt even though we/I might not show it out , because if I do .. – I over react for everything because I’m a girl.

I hope people stop using those phrases . It’s not hard I promise. Next time just say stop gossiping , don’t cry.. isn’t it easy? Try it.

There is an ad that I came across which pretty much summarizes it all :

 

Image courtesy: Google images

Are working women with kids ,selfish?


A very bold question that is .  Yet , it is the question being posed ,directly or indirectly by thousands of people across countries, to a lot of mothers. A misconception causing/forcing hundreds of women to leave the jobs after having kids !

This post has sprouted from a heated debate about women working after marriage, specifically after having kids.  Following are strongly spoken statements  , personally heard many of these from friends , relatives , strangers & so called ‘society!’ ! Are these expectations right?

If a woman refuses to give up her job after becoming a mother , she is selfish.

No , she wants to set an example to her child!

If a woman is career oriented ,  she doesn’t  care for the family.

That’s just ridiculous! Ever heard about  work-life balance?

If a woman prefers to work and not leave the job after marriage ,she is arrogant.

  Yes, Apparently because there is no need for the woman to work ! what?!

If a woman wants to grow in her career and not just be a sit at home mother , she is deemed not to care about the kid . But, if the father works day and night and has no time for the family , he is deemed to be working for the family. why?

 Because he is the man of the house. Period.

Motherly love is more crucial to the child than fathers , so the mother should leave the job for the sake of the child while the father supports the family! Mother blaming.

Wrong , check this research article!

http://www.spsp.org/news-center/press-releases/fathers-love-one-greatest-influences-personality-development

Here comes A convo :

Bride seeking family: We want a woman who isn’t career-oriented and would leave the job if necessary!

Me:  Is this asked to a guy? No! Why?

BSF: Because , the guy cannot resign .

Me: Why?

BSF: Guy has responsibilities, he has to take care of the family!

Me: Stunned!

what do you mean by if necessary?

BSF: Once the kid is born , we want her to leave the job because mother’s love is important !

Me: How about father’s love? Will he leave the job if necessary?!

BSF: That’s why girls shouldn’t study too much!

Me: <It’s useless to talk ! >  I have to go.

While there are people supporting working women , many aren’t .

I hope this changes for good, because working women do care for their family and kids just as the working men do .

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

“Best seller she wrote” review #3


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Author : ” Best seller she wrote ” is written by Ravi Subramanian an alumnus of IIMB. A best selling author who won a lot of awards and is a banker too.

The book sets off awaiting the guest at IIMB packed auditorium , this has set the image high up for the guest in question already. The entry of the main character Mr Aditya Kapoor has set off marvellously. He then goes on to talk about being a writer and a best selling author when he gets interrupted by a girl. An intense exchange of words go on and will be later settled by the girl. With a lovely doting wife and the pretty fan girl who aspires to be an author, what would happen further? I wouldn’t be revealing that .

Things to notice are that the actual professional life of a best selling author is very well portrayed. The hurdles faced  by the author on how to market a book once its written , create the plot, publicize it etc.  The work-life balance is very well indicated by describing the happy family life and the work life which is moving  at an amazing pace. It also shows how a famous , rock star writer has his normal life moments .

The subtle friendship fights and the bond of friendship which goes through various hits is very well portrayed. Though, the only thing that seemed like a set-back or which made my interest levels go low suddenly is the similarity between a current best selling author and the Aditya regarding an event. Though I didn’t feel quite good when such a doting wife is getting side-tracked. It is quite engaging and takes you into the shoes of the author later making everything seem quite understandable.

The character of the girl who aspires to be an author is very well portrayed , though it seemed a lil off at first as to why is she doing it , eventually as the story drains in any such q’s slowly disappear. A strong girl with a lot of confidence in herself, the fan-girl as I call her is impressive in chasing her dream of becoming an author also clearly stating to have a safe job side by side.This clearly explained the though process of a lot of writers who fear to have it as the only job . They would rather have it as a passion and leave the actual stability and money machine coming from another job.

It’s good for a light read with coffee in the mornings on weekends .. enjoying cool breeze and with a film enacting in your head as you read it over.  I started it out with a dilemma as to if it will turn out to be any regular book and might lose out interest, instead I actually had fun reading it. The story line might not be so different and expected but it is engaging . Have fun reading 🙂

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2 line stories!


When I saw myself in the mirror , I loved the way he smiled at me from behind..

only, he died yesterday and I just came back from his funeral.

 

He said he loved me and I should stay with him forever ,

I just stared at his coffin shocked to hear those words.

 

I came home tired from work  and went to bed straight away

I was hugged from behind ,but I was home alone!

 

I heard the words “I love you” from beside my bed

A tear dropped down my cheek  , I said ” I love you too , I wish you were alive “.

 
Hey !! I just started writing 2 line stories! Hoping to get some good ones out 🙂

The mother and the baby… Doodle#1


I’ve known u will grow big one day..

I’ve known u will fly one day…

I’ve known there will be a day, when I sit here and wonder when I would see u again..

I’ve known there will be a day ,when I’ll miss u with tears in my eyes..

I’ve known that ,one day I need to let go of u .. let u fly and see the world..

But I’ve never known when that day is here , this knowledge will be of no use.

I know I have to let u go.. but my dear it’s hard ..and I don’t have u to say “its going to be ok mama” …

This is the story of a  mother looking at its babies grow wings and fly far away … happy to see them grow ,yet, sad to know they are not going to come back to the nest….  mixed feelings , both equally strong.. yet all she can do is , stay strong and cherish the moments…

My New DSLR !!!!!


Back to blogging againnn … 🙂

After a looooooooong wait , finally took a step towards my passion..  Decided to try it out in my life and bought the first thing I wanted .. DSLR..

Buying a DSLR with my hard-earned money is the most blissful experience and that would remain in my heart forever. Every time I look back , I am sure I will always be happy to take this decision at this point of my life .

Having said that , what’s the fun in just buying the dslr and keeping it locked away ryt ?? Time to click as many pictures possible … time to freeze as many amazing moments as possible…

Though I am an amateur at this point and not entirely sure about the type of photography I am exactly made for .. I will get there 🙂 Now its time to explore ..

Here’s the first click of my dslr … at office 😛 Well, as the word office always screams out the word stress .. here it is ..

Caption: When d stress is just too much to handle… click the link below for the pic 🙂

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And btw , as u see this is my photography page ..   World thru my lens .. 🙂