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You are a girl!


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This title can be interpreted in two ways – positively,  negatively. Sadly the first thing that comes to me is negative.

Yes , this is so often used to insult that this particular sentence is something that no girl wants to hear anymore.

It is so liberally used by everyone – relatives, friends, colleagues , strangers and in some cases sadly parents too. Most saddening part is even girls/women use it without knowing the impact it is generating.

While most of them might not be aware of the impact of it or might not be even aware that it is insulting, it is not something I wish to hear anymore until the image changes.

Let the convos speak for themselves:

(guy/girl)Friend : I know a guy , he cries like a girl every-time he sees sad endings.

Me: Correction , he cries .period. Girls cry , guys cry. In-fact any human with emotions will cry. So he cries .

Friend: Here comes the supporter of the woman  ! Y don’t u take it on a lighter note .

Me: Well , I did for many years . Many do , which is the reason for the existence of this usage.

 

Colleague : Stop gossiping like a girl man !

Me: ahm , excuse me? (I ain’t gonna tolerate this every-time) . That’s very offensive I must say. I hope at-least educated people understand this.

 

Class mate: Y do u want to work when u can get married and chill? I have to work because I’m a guy

Girl: Because , I did not get bonus marks for being a girl in exams. I studied just as hard as u . I have to work because I’m a girl .

 

A stranger in bus: I see that you are travelling alone , where is ur husband?

Me: I am unmarried , I’m still studying.

Stranger: Haw! Girls shouldn’t study so much ! Just do some degree and get married , he will support u. Shop all day and enjoy.

Me: Looks like u r stuck in ancient times. Thank you for ur advice. But , please dont stop ur girl from studying if she wants to.

 

The most common one – your favorite color must be pink because you are a girl!

me: I have no favorite color. Yes , I don’t . I like each color on different things.

http://www.bbc.com/future/story/20141117-the-pink-vs-blue-gender-myth

While many support girls studying now, small things like -stop acting like a girl , don’t cry like a girl , don’t be a girl , don’t gossip like a girl , don’t run like a girl etc etc – hurt even though we/I might not show it out , because if I do .. – I over react for everything because I’m a girl.

I hope people stop using those phrases . It’s not hard I promise. Next time just say stop gossiping , don’t cry.. isn’t it easy? Try it.

There is an ad that I came across which pretty much summarizes it all :

 

Image courtesy: Google images

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Are working women with kids ,selfish?


A very bold question that is .  Yet , it is the question being posed ,directly or indirectly by thousands of people across countries, to a lot of mothers. A misconception causing/forcing hundreds of women to leave the jobs after having kids !

This post has sprouted from a heated debate about women working after marriage, specifically after having kids.  Following are strongly spoken statements  , personally heard many of these from friends , relatives , strangers & so called ‘society!’ ! Are these expectations right?

If a woman refuses to give up her job after becoming a mother , she is selfish.

No , she wants to set an example to her child!

If a woman is career oriented ,  she doesn’t  care for the family.

That’s just ridiculous! Ever heard about  work-life balance?

If a woman prefers to work and not leave the job after marriage ,she is arrogant.

  Yes, Apparently because there is no need for the woman to work ! what?!

If a woman wants to grow in her career and not just be a sit at home mother , she is deemed not to care about the kid . But, if the father works day and night and has no time for the family , he is deemed to be working for the family. why?

 Because he is the man of the house. Period.

Motherly love is more crucial to the child than fathers , so the mother should leave the job for the sake of the child while the father supports the family! Mother blaming.

Wrong , check this research article!

http://www.spsp.org/news-center/press-releases/fathers-love-one-greatest-influences-personality-development

Here comes A convo :

Bride seeking family: We want a woman who isn’t career-oriented and would leave the job if necessary!

Me:  Is this asked to a guy? No! Why?

BSF: Because , the guy cannot resign .

Me: Why?

BSF: Guy has responsibilities, he has to take care of the family!

Me: Stunned!

what do you mean by if necessary?

BSF: Once the kid is born , we want her to leave the job because mother’s love is important !

Me: How about father’s love? Will he leave the job if necessary?!

BSF: That’s why girls shouldn’t study too much!

Me: <It’s useless to talk ! >  I have to go.

While there are people supporting working women , many aren’t .

I hope this changes for good, because working women do care for their family and kids just as the working men do .

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Success of Sindhu – social media


Watching Sindhu fight till the last minute showed the real spirit of her. While the whole world applauded and respected  the glorious success in the defeat (i wouldn’t call it a defeat, if it were for me) , a lot of sexist comments started swarming over .

As soon as the match ended , while the whole nation celebrated her, there were some disturbing statements going around. They are disturbing to me because even in the success,the focus is being shifted to irrelevant things in media.

I saw an article on xyz site which stated people are busy searching for her caste and goes ahead to talk about how sad it is etc. Firstly , this is something that shouldn’t be a piece of news to write an article about. The focus is being shifted from success and sports to mere gossip here, which I didn’t appreciate and am sure many others would agree with me on this.   < I don’t want to name the site or provide a link to the site because , I don’t want people reading it even by mistake.>

There are various jokes going around about how women , apart from getting vegetables also have to now get medals now , how women are succeeding because men started coaching and how wife is taunting her husband using this etc etc . While there are various variety of jokes going around and can be taken in light humour, it is making the success more of a new thing to gossip about and create jokes about rather than adding real value to the story.

There are always two sides to any story ;Even here I am not sure if I should be happy sports is coming into the lime-light or if I should be sad even sports fell prey to the internet sexist jokes and memes.

In any case , regardless of the gender , it’s a proud moment for India to see such brilliant performances .  While the story of Sindhu is being heard for good , there are many unheard ;Every single person who participated in Olympics this year strived his/her best and is equally glorious in our eyes.

Happy to see great changes happening in 2016 and looking forward to seeing more 🙂

Here’s the link to all the Indian participants of Rio Olympics  this year :

participants of Rio Olympics 2016

After this serious article, lighten up the mood with these twisted stories 😀 :

Twisted stories 😛

Keep smiling and spreading happiness .. 🙂

Oh God , who are you?


Hey God , who are you?

Are you human?

Do you have a shape?

Can you live forever ?

or is the life span at your place just higher compared to earth?

Are you just an advanced species like aliens?

Can you apparate?

Are you magical?

Can you heal?

Are you just advanced  than us like we humans are than animals?

Firstly , is God you or it ?

You can just be a power , which makes you, it!

Oh God, Who are you or …. … should I say, who is it?

…….

…. wait …

Are you just the enlightened me? Am I the God?

 

 

 

What if Raavan is not evil? What’s his side of story?


Am I missing a complete story of the other side?

Am I manipulated into thinking something is right ?

Is the story of Ramayana complete?  Why is every story favouring Gods?

What if the term rakshas isn’t as bad as it’s portrayed?

What if there are unheard stories of the Rakshasas? What if they were actually good and were painted to be evil by Devas?

What if the Raavan’s side of story is unheard and is lost!

I think that, everything I heard is one-sided and I am completely blank about the story of the other side. It’s completely missing! why?

I feel all that,all I know might actually be a manipulated version ! What if the demons were actually good?  What if the stories we know were created by devas to cover up the truth about Rakshasas?

What if the Rakshasaas were supressed by Devas? What if Raavan was deceptively killed for evil reasons unlike what the story preaches ?

What if….. what if…

Holi hai! :)


With Holi right around the corner , everyone has started purchasing colors, gifts , booking tickets to home town, quite a festive mood! What does one get reminded of hearing the word holi? Colors of-course! It’s a world of beautiful colors! Apart from being a festival of colors, it’s another reason to fly back to your families and have that awesome home cooked meals 🙂

The only Holi that I celebrated is the one I don’t even remember! Strange ? Yes, it is strange. The reason is because , it was when I was a 2 years old! I barely remember the stuff I did when I was in fifth standard ! Talk about being 2 years old, it’s impossible to recall.

I’ve heard a lot of stories about it though, I had one helluva time on my first holi. I’ve dropped water balloons onto the people dressed up in formal wear and going to office 😀 I’ve sprayed colors from the water gun from the highest floor onto the people . I have rung the door bells and stood there while the my sisters and their gang sprayed the colors and ran away! How sweet of them to let me ring the door bells -_-

Of-course I had help ! There was a tall chair to bring me to the right height so that I can drop those water filled balloons onto the uncles and aunties wearing pure white dresses 😛 Oh yes, it was mandatory to wear white that day as I hear. I used to love spraying the water colors onto people apparently! Though I have a suspicion that my sisters did and I was used as the bait! I’m a little kid , they can’t be angry seeing my innocent puppy-eye face!

Oh ! oh! and holi is full of gifts! Or rather just another reason to go out and shop in the name of giving gifts 😀 I love that idea though. I love receiving gifts as much as planning to gift 🙂

Well, at-least I did have fun even if it was in my childhood 🙂 I’m definitely planning on bringing back that days full of festive colors again ..

Happy holi everyone.. have a safe holi! (yes, you heard that right, not safe diwali  safe holi; colors can be dangerous too!) Enjoy the family gatherings, have lots of food and put that sweet little fat under your bellies.:P

“I’m pledging to #KhulKeKheloHoli this year by sharing my Holi memories atBlogAdda in association with Parachute Advansed.”

Warren Buffet’s management secrets review#7


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This is about the management strategies used by warren buffet to grow into the person he is. From a person who feared talking in-front of people to becoming who he is , Warren Buffet has outsmarted his investor self with his manager self.

A few secrets to a successful entrepreneurship:

  1. Own , manage or work for the right business.
  2. Delegate authority so that there is more time to invest in innovative thoughts.
  3. Find manager with right qualities; Integrity,intelligence and passion
  4. Motivating the work force

His secrets about managerial aspects gives an insight to the way markets work. The book talks about

  1. Which companies are best to work with
  2. How the employers think , which companies they prefer to work with
  3. How the consumers decisions impact the market.
  4. The type of companies that give more scope for a manager to grow and succeed.
  5. Re-designing products, re-building machines
  6. Low cost buyer and seller companies eg: Nebraska furniture mart, Costco,Walmart

This book gives a lot of insights into business world ,strategies and the qualities needed by every person at one’s point of career. It explains strategies of various companies and what lead them to the path of success. A must read book 🙂

The audio book video is below.. 🙂