This title can be interpreted in two ways – positively, negatively. Sadly the first thing that comes to me is negative.
Yes , this is so often used to insult that this particular sentence is something that no girl wants to hear anymore.
It is so liberally used by everyone – relatives, friends, colleagues , strangers and in some cases sadly parents too. Most saddening part is even girls/women use it without knowing the impact it is generating.
While most of them might not be aware of the impact of it or might not be even aware that it is insulting, it is not something I wish to hear anymore until the image changes.
Let the convos speak for themselves:
(guy/girl)Friend : I know a guy , he cries like a girl every-time he sees sad endings.
Me: Correction , he cries .period. Girls cry , guys cry. In-fact any human with emotions will cry. So he cries .
Friend: Here comes the supporter of the woman ! Y don’t u take it on a lighter note .
Me: Well , I did for many years . Many do , which is the reason for the existence of this usage.
Colleague : Stop gossiping like a girl man !
Me: ahm , excuse me? (I ain’t gonna tolerate this every-time) . That’s very offensive I must say. I hope at-least educated people understand this.
Class mate: Y do u want to work when u can get married and chill? I have to work because I’m a guy
Girl: Because , I did not get bonus marks for being a girl in exams. I studied just as hard as u . I have to work because I’m a girl .
A stranger in bus: I see that you are travelling alone , where is ur husband?
Me: I am unmarried , I’m still studying.
Stranger: Haw! Girls shouldn’t study so much ! Just do some degree and get married , he will support u. Shop all day and enjoy.
Me: Looks like u r stuck in ancient times. Thank you for ur advice. But , please dont stop ur girl from studying if she wants to.
The most common one – your favorite color must be pink because you are a girl!
me: I have no favorite color. Yes , I don’t . I like each color on different things.
While many support girls studying now, small things like -stop acting like a girl , don’t cry like a girl , don’t be a girl , don’t gossip like a girl , don’t run like a girl etc etc – hurt even though we/I might not show it out , because if I do .. – I over react for everything because I’m a girl.
I hope people stop using those phrases . It’s not hard I promise. Next time just say stop gossiping , don’t cry.. isn’t it easy? Try it.
There is an ad that I came across which pretty much summarizes it all :
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