Are we real?

A thought I’ve always had but never shared! Are we in a real world , or ,are we in a world that we assume to be real which infact is a simulation or a creation of someone!

Earlier , I thought people would call me crazy if I had put forward these thoughts , but , there are a lot of people thinking on the similar lines.

What if the world we lived in is designed by someone. I remember my mom telling me in childhood , God is the master of this game . He created this and we are just the pawns .

1. What if our every move is actually made by God ! What if what we do is because we are made to do it. We might just be the pieces in a game like a chess or carroms or the characters of any video game or role playing game !

 We might be inside a game !

2. What if we are a simulation of another advanced species ! There might be highly advanced species simulating certain situations and we might just be the characters in it!

Following is an article by scientific community.

We might be inside a simulation

3. What if we are in a cartoon world designed by someone! Imagine the characters in a comic that you read being real! What if those comics’ or cartoons’ or webtoons’ characters have a life of their own designed as per the set up of the comic/cartoon /webtoon.  What if the characters that we decide in a comic take life of their own but are controlled by our setup.

We might be inside a cartoon designed by an advanced species like us

Came across  this idea from the korean drama “W”

Here’s the link to all the episodes of the korean drama series “W” for all the K lovers..


We never know until we break our own character setup!

Maybe that’s what they call spiritual enlightenment !

Everything links so perfectly.



You are a girl!


This title can be interpreted in two ways – positively,  negatively. Sadly the first thing that comes to me is negative.

Yes , this is so often used to insult that this particular sentence is something that no girl wants to hear anymore.

It is so liberally used by everyone – relatives, friends, colleagues , strangers and in some cases sadly parents too. Most saddening part is even girls/women use it without knowing the impact it is generating.

While most of them might not be aware of the impact of it or might not be even aware that it is insulting, it is not something I wish to hear anymore until the image changes.

Let the convos speak for themselves:

(guy/girl)Friend : I know a guy , he cries like a girl every-time he sees sad endings.

Me: Correction , he cries .period. Girls cry , guys cry. In-fact any human with emotions will cry. So he cries .

Friend: Here comes the supporter of the woman  ! Y don’t u take it on a lighter note .

Me: Well , I did for many years . Many do , which is the reason for the existence of this usage.


Colleague : Stop gossiping like a girl man !

Me: ahm , excuse me? (I ain’t gonna tolerate this every-time) . That’s very offensive I must say. I hope at-least educated people understand this.


Class mate: Y do u want to work when u can get married and chill? I have to work because I’m a guy

Girl: Because , I did not get bonus marks for being a girl in exams. I studied just as hard as u . I have to work because I’m a girl .


A stranger in bus: I see that you are travelling alone , where is ur husband?

Me: I am unmarried , I’m still studying.

Stranger: Haw! Girls shouldn’t study so much ! Just do some degree and get married , he will support u. Shop all day and enjoy.

Me: Looks like u r stuck in ancient times. Thank you for ur advice. But , please dont stop ur girl from studying if she wants to.


The most common one – your favorite color must be pink because you are a girl!

me: I have no favorite color. Yes , I don’t . I like each color on different things.

While many support girls studying now, small things like -stop acting like a girl , don’t cry like a girl , don’t be a girl , don’t gossip like a girl , don’t run like a girl etc etc – hurt even though we/I might not show it out , because if I do .. – I over react for everything because I’m a girl.

I hope people stop using those phrases . It’s not hard I promise. Next time just say stop gossiping , don’t cry.. isn’t it easy? Try it.

There is an ad that I came across which pretty much summarizes it all :


Image courtesy: Google images

Are working women with kids ,selfish?

A very bold question that is .  Yet , it is the question being posed ,directly or indirectly by thousands of people across countries, to a lot of mothers. A misconception causing/forcing hundreds of women to leave the jobs after having kids !

This post has sprouted from a heated debate about women working after marriage, specifically after having kids.  Following are strongly spoken statements  , personally heard many of these from friends , relatives , strangers & so called ‘society!’ ! Are these expectations right?

If a woman refuses to give up her job after becoming a mother , she is selfish.

No , she wants to set an example to her child!

If a woman is career oriented ,  she doesn’t  care for the family.

That’s just ridiculous! Ever heard about  work-life balance?

If a woman prefers to work and not leave the job after marriage ,she is arrogant.

  Yes, Apparently because there is no need for the woman to work ! what?!

If a woman wants to grow in her career and not just be a sit at home mother , she is deemed not to care about the kid . But, if the father works day and night and has no time for the family , he is deemed to be working for the family. why?

 Because he is the man of the house. Period.

Motherly love is more crucial to the child than fathers , so the mother should leave the job for the sake of the child while the father supports the family! Mother blaming.

Wrong , check this research article!

Here comes A convo :

Bride seeking family: We want a woman who isn’t career-oriented and would leave the job if necessary!

Me:  Is this asked to a guy? No! Why?

BSF: Because , the guy cannot resign .

Me: Why?

BSF: Guy has responsibilities, he has to take care of the family!

Me: Stunned!

what do you mean by if necessary?

BSF: Once the kid is born , we want her to leave the job because mother’s love is important !

Me: How about father’s love? Will he leave the job if necessary?!

BSF: That’s why girls shouldn’t study too much!

Me: <It’s useless to talk ! >  I have to go.

While there are people supporting working women , many aren’t .

I hope this changes for good, because working women do care for their family and kids just as the working men do .








Luxury or necessity? -Rio Olympics

Is there something called too much appreciation? While it is lovely that Sindhu/Sakshi/… are getting the appreciation they deserve , the money isn’t equally distributed . To be frank I think it’s rather unfair!

As everyone is aware of the crores of rupees, flats , cars that are being given to Sindhu or Sakshi ,what about the other Olympic participants? There are many who narrowly missed the medal. There are many Olympic participants who desperately need the basic necessities  and not the luxuries.

Why not support the needy , rather than give away crores of rupees to someone who is financially sound enough or supported enough.  Yes, I feel it is unfair that while there are some who are struggling to even get proper shoes to train , BMW’s are being given away!

Manish Singh Rawat the racewalker who bagged 13th position in finals(which is as good as a gold medal ) , how many know about him?  He practiced in the foothills of Himalayas . Instead of the training shoes , he wore torn shoes .  If 1% of the money given away is given to him , it will make a huge difference in his life. To know more check this article.

While it’s a known fact that Jaisha didn’t even get the basic necessity water , this hype seems wrong to me ! The money should judiciously be used to provide these necessities in general and in specific to the financially deprived , to the athletes rather than shoot straight to the luxuries.

“If there is a way to calculate performance per investment , the toppers of those actually deserve to receive the give away money” – Knappily.  While I might seem to be against Sindhu or Sakshi , I am not. I just think the money will hold a greater value if given to those in dire need of it.

All in all, I am happy to see a lot of training and funding platforms being planned, to support the athletes and provide them the facilities they need to train and excel 🙂

Linking a few articles which explain the need to re-think this extravagant give away and come up with a better plan.


Success of Sindhu – social media

Watching Sindhu fight till the last minute showed the real spirit of her. While the whole world applauded and respected  the glorious success in the defeat (i wouldn’t call it a defeat, if it were for me) , a lot of sexist comments started swarming over .

As soon as the match ended , while the whole nation celebrated her, there were some disturbing statements going around. They are disturbing to me because even in the success,the focus is being shifted to irrelevant things in media.

I saw an article on xyz site which stated people are busy searching for her caste and goes ahead to talk about how sad it is etc. Firstly , this is something that shouldn’t be a piece of news to write an article about. The focus is being shifted from success and sports to mere gossip here, which I didn’t appreciate and am sure many others would agree with me on this.   < I don’t want to name the site or provide a link to the site because , I don’t want people reading it even by mistake.>

There are various jokes going around about how women , apart from getting vegetables also have to now get medals now , how women are succeeding because men started coaching and how wife is taunting her husband using this etc etc . While there are various variety of jokes going around and can be taken in light humour, it is making the success more of a new thing to gossip about and create jokes about rather than adding real value to the story.

There are always two sides to any story ;Even here I am not sure if I should be happy sports is coming into the lime-light or if I should be sad even sports fell prey to the internet sexist jokes and memes.

In any case , regardless of the gender , it’s a proud moment for India to see such brilliant performances .  While the story of Sindhu is being heard for good , there are many unheard ;Every single person who participated in Olympics this year strived his/her best and is equally glorious in our eyes.

Happy to see great changes happening in 2016 and looking forward to seeing more 🙂

Here’s the link to all the Indian participants of Rio Olympics  this year :

participants of Rio Olympics 2016

After this serious article, lighten up the mood with these twisted stories 😀 :

Twisted stories 😛

Keep smiling and spreading happiness .. 🙂

What if Raavan is not evil? What’s his side of story?

Am I missing a complete story of the other side?

Am I manipulated into thinking something is right ?

Is the story of Ramayana complete?  Why is every story favouring Gods?

What if the term rakshas isn’t as bad as it’s portrayed?

What if there are unheard stories of the Rakshasas? What if they were actually good and were painted to be evil by Devas?

What if the Raavan’s side of story is unheard and is lost!

I think that, everything I heard is one-sided and I am completely blank about the story of the other side. It’s completely missing! why?

I feel all that,all I know might actually be a manipulated version ! What if the demons were actually good?  What if the stories we know were created by devas to cover up the truth about Rakshasas?

What if the Rakshasaas were supressed by Devas? What if Raavan was deceptively killed for evil reasons unlike what the story preaches ?

What if….. what if…

No Barriers 

At the airport , saw a Japanese mother of two naughty boys .. A 2 year old and a 7 year old I guess. . And there was an Indian mother of two daughters almost matching their age.. While the younger one is a lil over 3 years. 

 Even though they don’t know each other’s language , I saw excitement in the faces of those boys when they see these girls. Instantly they started talking to each other in whatever language they know  and with gestures. It’s so amazing to watch kids connect without any barriers of language ,sex , religion whatsover. 

 While I would have been a lil shy to talk to anyone whom I absolutely cannot communicate with in a common language , these kids reminded me of how I was in my childhood before the  ” maturity” as people call took over me . I should be free like them .. With no worries , no care for what people think… Just do what u feel like.. It was beautiful to watch these kids communicate me play along.

 What an amazing way to start a trip to a foreign land, energised and excited to face whatever life is going to throw at me.

  Love the vibe… Xoxo